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Lisa

Sibling's Name: Joe

Relation to them: My younger brother

Date of Birth: 6/6/76

Date of Death: 2/8/97

Their age when they died: 20

My age when they died: 22

Cause of Death: Suicide

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Listening to 90s grunge and hiking in the woods. I also hear a bit of his voice in my laughter.

How Did Their Death Change Your or Your Family: It launched me on my healing journey and informs the work I do today.

Anything Else You'd Like to Share: I think of Joe all the time and sometimes I talk to him while I write.

Anne

Sibling's Name: David

Relation to them: My older brother

Date of Death: September 2008

Their age when they died: 47

My age when they died: 35

Cause of Death: A fall from a mountain in Colorado while hiking

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Being in nature doing something fun

How Did Their Death Change Your or Your Family: How long do you have?!

Anything Else You'd Like to Share: I'm so grateful to have had my athletic, smart, generous, adorable brother. And I will never stop missing him.

Sarah

Sibling's Name: Mindy

Relation to them: Older sister

Their age when they died: 3

My age when they died: 13

Cause of Death: Tay-Sachs Disease

What makes you feel close to your sibling: My oldest son is named after Mindy.

Stephanie

Sibling's Name: Fernando Gutiérrez Jr.

Relation to them: Older brother

Date of Birth: 01/31/1981

Date of Death: 12/23/2000

Their age when they died: 19

My age when they died: 12

Cause of Death: Murdered

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Music, specifically Tupac

How Did Their Death Change Your or Your Family: The family dynamic fell apart. I became rebellious, hiding depression.

Anything Else You'd Like to Share: Although Fernie left us I want him to always be remembered as a happy soul, always smiling, courteous, down to earth personality and all around great person.

Tori

Sibling's Name: Drew

Relation to them: He was my younger brother.

Date of Birth: 4/2/1981

Date of Death: 2/11/2020

Their age when they died: 38

My age when they died: 40

Cause of Death: Complications of metastatic colon cancer

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Watching sports, talking politics, Pearl Jam’s “Given to Fly.”

Anything Else You'd Like to Share: I wish you had known him, you would have loved him.

Rebecca

Sibling's Name: Debbie Gummere Lilgendahl

Relation to them: sister

Date of Birth: 10/22/1944

Date of Death: 2/22/1980

Their age when they died: 35

My age when they died: 27

Cause of Death: cancer

Anything Else You'd like to Share: Sometimes I hear her laughter, like an echo.

Jennie

Sibling's Name: Matt

Relation to them: Brother

Date of Birth: 1977

Date of Death: 2020

Their age when they died: 43

My age when they died: 49

Cause of Death: Accidental Overdose

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Laughter! Jack Black, the Grateful Dead, Cardinals, Orange Skies, hospitality, practical jokes, baseball, Golf and silly golfing movies, joy

How Did Their Death Change Your or Your Family: It changed us, but it didn't break us.

Anything else you'd like to share: I hope that a day comes when no one loses a sibling to mental illness or overdose.

Meghan

Sibling's Name: Andrew

Relation to them: Older sister

Date of Birth: 08/19/1985

Date of Death: 05/1/1992

Their age when they died: 7

My age when they died: 12

Cause of Death: He was struck by a car while crossing the road

What makes you feel close to your sibling: My daughters and their goofiness, love of science, and curiosity.

How Did Their Death Change Your or Your Family: We went from a family of 4 to 3. I was left an only child for all intents and purposes though I was still very much a sibling*. (The * signifies to me that there is a footnote.) My parents and I are unusually close because of this experience. Our faith was also solidified.

Alyson

Sibling's Name: Michael

Relation to them: My Older Brother

Date of Death: He died in 1984

My age when they died: When I was 10.

Cause of Death: He died in a hiking accident.

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Humor, watching sitcoms.

Anything else you'd like to share: I think of him often and will love him forever.

Molly

Sibling's Name: Jimmy

Relation to them: My Older Brother

Date of Birth: September 25th, 1992

Date of Death: February 16th, 2014

Their age when they died: 21

My age when they died: 17

Cause of Death: Brain Cancer

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Listening to Classic Rock, watching his favorite shows and movies, playing Nintendo Games

Lynn

Sibling's Name: Will

Relation to them: Older sister

Date of Birth: 1977

Date of Death: 1999

Their age when they died: 21

My age when they died: 24

Cause of Death: accidental overdose

What makes you feel close to your sibling: Listening to music he loved, watching Adam Sandler movies.

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